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Mis-naming

January 20, 2024

A few years ago, I discovered that my parents almost named me Silas Dean Wolfe instead of William Dean Wolfe. Silas was the name of one of my grandfathers, who had been killed in a mining accident when my dad was in his growing-up years. Not knowing about my “other name” until I was in my fifties made me consider the possibilities. Would a name change have made any difference?

On the opposite side of the situation, would someone else assuming my name make a difference? Whereas, if I would have been christened “Silas Dean’ would not have altered my life course, if a different person took on my name after all these years would have been different, even suspicious.

It would be like a Chevy Chevette masquerading as a Corvette. Some of the same letters would be used but the car would be a real discouragement.

Thus, it is with the name “evangelical.” What it meant a few decades ago has been replaced with something uncomfortable and shaped differently. (Picture the Chevette with a Corvette name taped onto the car’s back panel.) The uncomfortableness can be seen in how the media uses the term and also in some of those who identify themselves with the term.

The roots of the word “evangelical” come from the Greek word “euangelion”, which means “the good news” or “gospel.” It emphasizes the proclamation of Jesus and the good news that He offers of eternal life.

In recent years, it has morphed into an identifier of a conservative political group with strong ties to the Republican Party. In the recent Iowa political primary, many of the evangelicals openly admit that they are not connected to any community of faith. In essence, the political party that they have invested their money and time into is their church.

The effect is that to be an evangelical is viewed as a defining label of one’s political views and only slightly connected to the gospel of Christ. Even certain broadcasters will place a sneer into the prouncing of the word. The interesting thing is that the National Association of Evangelicals, founded in 1942, was meant to be a moderate group placed between two factions of conservatives and liberals.

Over the years, things have changed. The good news is now viewed with suspicion. Let me say it again. The good news of grace, peace, love, salvation, and forgiveness of God is now viewed with suspicion.

Scamming Life

January 16, 2024

We used to watch Candid Camera on TV as part of our Sunday evening entertainment. Allen Funt set the scene for us of unsuspecting people in weird situations. At the end of each person’s encounter the words “Smile! You’re on Candid Camera!” would be said to the amusement of the audience and, most of the time, the person who had just been pranked.

In more recent times, there have been other TV shows that have played out fake scenarios involving people going about their days. In essence, we’ve been familiar with scams since we were born into this world.

Scams, however, have taken on a new life form. Ninety percent of the cell phone calls I receive are scam calls. Lord only knows how many “real” calls I’ve missed because I didn’t recognize the phone number. My iPhone gives me a nice warning that the call from PoDunk, Wisconsin, is a scam, but today I didn’t answer a call from my pharmaceutical company because it wasn’t familiar and was coming from Arlington Heights, Illinois.

Now we have look-alike imposters, who are very convincing. An elderly lady from our area received a piece of mail recently telling her that she had won the Publishers Clearinghouse Sweepstakes. The enclosed announcement would have gotten me excited with the believability of its appearance. Thankfully, this octogenarian called one of our local TV stations who investigated it further and uncovered the false claims.

Kindhearted followers of Jesus have been suckers for scam artists. Fake charities and pretend ministries that play on the emotions of empathetic people have been around for a long time. The New York Times published an article about one “charity scammer” who had 76 fake charities that the IRS hadn’t noticed, charities with official-sounding names like “The American Cancer Society for Children of Massachusetts.” In fact, the 76 charities shared the same mailbox.

As my mom used to say, however, “When you point your finger at someone, four other fingers are pointing back at you.” Actually, it’s three because my thumb is pointing toward the sky. But those three fingers remind me that I can be a “Jesus-scammer.” I can convince people that I’m a wholehearted follower of Jesus, even when my thoughts and actions communicate otherwise.

There is even a bundle of times (That means a lot!) when I think I can scam God into not seeing my waywardness, self-centeredness, and lack of commitment. We cringe at the word “scam,” but I’m guilty of pretending to be a person of faith.

That sound harsh and self-condemning, and yet it’s accurate. Maybe I don’t construct fake charities like The United Way of Ohio (Another of the 76!), but I fall short and act out innocence.

And thus, I pray for forgiveness and rely on the promise of the grace of God. For that, I am genuinely…truly thankful!

Uninvited Guest

January 10, 2024

This morning at my neighborhood Starbucks, a homeless woman in a wheelchair came in. The staff treated her with respect, offered to help her get into the restroom, and gave her a cup of hot coffee.

At 6AM on Wednesday mornings at this particular Starbucks, a group of four to six men meet. They pull two tables together, sit there, and gab as they drink coffee for an hour. It’s the one day during the week when I occupy a table at the other end of the cafe, because of the closeness of my usual seat to them.

However, on this Wednesday they had an uninvited guest, the homeless woman. When she exited the restroom, she pulled her wheelchair up close to the men’s tables and scooted over into one of the empty seats that was awaiting the arrival of one of their regulars. The dynamics of the group changed at that point. What was intended to be another round of their typical Wednesday morning chattering had the result of scattering. After about 15 minutes of the woman sitting with them at their tables and looking like she was feeling right at home, the group of four men took their leave. It was only 6:20.

Before her arrival, she had had an encounter with a couple of law enforcement officers outside the cafe, had wheeled herself away, but then had come back. At about 6:40, one of the officers came back, had a chat with her, and then guided her to the exit doors. I held the door open for her to maneuver her wheelchair to the outside. Although I’m not involved in the field of mental health, because of her chattering to herself and the chaotic state of the restroom after she had used it, I had the feeling that she had some form of mental illness.

And then, five minutes after her exit, the group of four men came back and gathered around their tables once again to resume the weekly chatter.

I considered what I had seen and heard. What did the situation communicate? Why was I left with a feeling of uncomfortableness?

First, the positive. The Starbucks staff was kind and considerate. They showed hospitality to the guest who had been burdened with multiple life challenges. They did what they could. Even the group of four men was respectful, but when it was apparent that she was seeing her visit to their tables as more than a “Hi! How are you?”, they made their escape.

Most of us are uncomfortable with intrusions into our normal living routines. We gravitate toward the familiar, the expected, and the planned-on. The problems of our society and world are so often simply seen as problems…out there, somewhere else, to be handled by others. Whether it be a wheelchair-bound homeless woman, a migrant crisis, a mass shooting, or even an autoworkers’ strike, we are often at a loss as to how to respond. We crave normalcy. We cringe about the irregular.

Truthfully, the Starbucks encounter with the homeless lady was a no-win situation. She wasn’t asking for help and was probably simply looking for a place to get warm for a while. Although we don’t like to admit it, the only answers we have for some of the situations in life are to be kind, respectful, and seek the Lord’s help in knowing how to respond.

Jesus was criticized for hanging out with “sinners.” He was scoffed at for healing the blind, the lame, and the ostracized lepers. For us, when the unexpected enters our arena of life or sits down at our table, it requires prayer and then a question to consider: What would Jesus do?

The Newness of Oldness

January 7, 2024


Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Something old, something new...” is the beginning of a rhyme intended for brides to remember their list of things that needed to be done. For me, it has a completely different connotation. In the midst of my old age, I’m finding new experiences.

For example, I’m awakened each new day with my new companion, Arth Rithis! You see, the latest and greatest may mean what enters into your life later on that will be one of your greatest challenges. To announce its arrival, it rings the doorbell of your lower back and knocks on your knees. The pill that is taken shortly after arising in the morning gradually dulls the noise of the pain.

This is another thing about the oldness of newness: the expanding number of pill bottles that are the AARP equivalent of notches in the belt. It’s a sign of how many decades you’ve roamed the earth, a prescription to symbolize every ten years. Honestly, most of the pill bottles are reflections of the sins of my past: a taste for fried foods, not stretching well enough before playing basketball or taking in a five-mile run, slouching in that uncomfortable school desk for all those years, and snacking late at night. In many cases, the newness is connected to my dumbness.

Other new additions to my new old year include suspect hearing, hurting teeth, unexpected grumpiness, and a desire to head to warmer climates about the time I’m turning the thermostat up in the house.

The other side of the well-weathered coin, however, is that each day is a new creation, a new opportunity, and filled with the potential of a multitude of blessings. I am a new creation given the opportunity to be renewed and refreshed each and every day.

When I retired after 36 and 1/2 years as a church pastor, I was actually “repurposed.” I was no longer pastoring a church, but I was repurposed to pastor in other ways: conversations at Starbucks with several of the regulars that often turn towards the spiritual, coaching young athletes with emphases on good character and respect for others, the freed-up time to write, and the opportunities to teach middle school kids that is more about influencing their perspectives and moral outlook on life. I no longer have the time pressure to prepare a sermon each week, but I do have the “purpose” of impacting young minds.

In effect, I am a new creation, not because of anything I’ve done but because of the One I follow, Jesus. The renewing of my mind is far more important than the deterioration of my knees and hips. In the midst of my transition from Frosted Flakes to cereal that resembles grass clippings, I have been blessed to make small, subtle differences in the lives of those I encounter.

I am an old new creation!

My Irritations Through Jesus’s Eyes

January 4, 2024

“You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well.” (Matthew 5:38-40)

Sometimes when I’m out for a walk, I listen to Andy Stanley’s sermons. Recently, he was doing a message on underreacting to overreactions. He asked the question, “What irritates you?” and then suggested that the question be asked again through the eyes of Jesus.

Uh-oh!

It got me thinking and cringing about the results. For example, reality TV irritates me, or as I like to call it, “Lack of Reality TV”. How would Jesus react? Thinking of scripture, I think Jesus would point us toward the Kingdom of God…“Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth, as it is in heaven.” The priorities and the drama of this world are not the priorities of Kingdom people.

I thought about the other things in life that cause me to grind my teeth: college athletics transfer portal, helicopter parents, Christians who are so narrow-minded they won’t even drink root beer, a 1,000-piece jigsaw puzzle with 999 pieces, scam calls, dogs that bark at nothing for an hour at a time (in the backyard behind our backyard), and speeding motorcyclists who zig-zag through traffic like they’re going down a slalom ski course.

But how would Jesus react? It seems that Jesus only got stern and confrontational with the most religious people of His day. For most of the irritating items on my list, I’m afraid He would tell me to get over them. The realization of that fact grinds at me but also brings me back to the fact that I live in a fallen creation and I’M one of the fallen creatures. I pick my nose when no one is looking and edge up my speedometer when it suits me. I also have a way of justifying myself like it’s a protective shield around my fragile ego. I don’t like to ask the question, “How do I irritate Jesus?”

Our hunger to look perfect and think of ourselves as perfect needs to kneel in the shadow of the cross. It is only in that slim place of darkness that we can truly see who we are and rejoice in the saving grace of God.

Keeping the Story Real

December 20, 2023

 “This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit.” (Matthew 1:18)

The front porch of my Mamaw and Papaw Helton’s Kentucky farmhouse was a place of storytelling. My dad, uncles, and grandfather would sit in the rockers and porch swings and tell the tales of past events. It did not matter that they had been told and retold and were known as well as an Andy Griffith rerun. They were the stories that entertained. They were the ingredients in the family identity recipe.

Underneath the stories were the reasons, causes and effects that were often lost in the numerous retellings. The why behind the story had been layered over with the recounting of each saga. Pretty soon, the reason for the story had disappeared into the distant past.

The deeper truths and values of our lives are sometimes buried by the narratives that we bring back to the front porch. There is always the danger of forgetting about the hope, grace, peace, faith, and love that are at the root of the stories.

I find that with the story of the birth of Jesus. We’ve told the story so many times that it’s become just a story. We remember the details, but the story is more than the details. Most of us can quote pieces of the conversations between Mary and the angel, the words of the angel to the frightened shepherds who were out in the fields watching their flocks. We know about the inn that had no room, the manger birthplace, and the reason Mary and Joseph were in Bethlehem (The Roman census).

The story is powerful. It is impacting. It is miraculous and majestic. It’s more than one of Aesop’s fables or Grimm’s fairy tales. It is the story of the love of God funneled into the form of a newborn who has come to save the world.

During this season of reflection and celebration, may we not lose sight of the grace of God that embraced His humanity.

Confusing the Peace

December 17, 2023


And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7)

Finding peace these days is like trying to hunt down the hottest selling item that’s on the kids’ Christmas list. We’re looking for it, but it seems to be more elusive the more we need it.

It’s much easier to find prime examples of “a lack of peace.” There are the Middle East tragedies that seem to intensify instead of ease, the border unrest that draws sympathy and criticism, neither with any firm solutions, the heightening fentanyl crisis that seeks to increase the troubles of the already troubled, and the inner turmoil that is sickening the souls of for many of our youth and young adults.

When Jesus came into the world as a newborn, it was an intense, unpeaceful time. Those in power eliminated any possible threats before they were able to get any traction. There had been some others before Jesus who had caused problems. They were quickly silenced. “Keeping the peace” meant keeping quiet and never questioning the oppressive conditions.

Even Jesus, the One who was “Peace on Earth,” met the resistance of man. The very One who offered peace was viewed as “a problem” by those who liked it just the way it was and by others who interpreted peace as meaning something completely different.

Similar elements cloud the picture in our days. The Peace That transcends all understanding is not welcome in many troubled spots of the world and is scorned by the darkness of wasteland hearts. There is still no room in the inn of empty lives.

Instead of being offended, the Lord of Hosts keeps offering His hand as a gesture of peace for embattled humanity. There have been, and will be, those who see the Light. In His timing and in His way, stories of healing, hope, and rebirth are in our midst.

Peace on earth and goodwill to all will be found by some who were at the end of their optimism. At that point, some of the redeemed will ask themselves why they hadn’t found Him sooner.

Obedience In The Direction of “NO”

December 15, 2023


You were running a good race. Who cut in on you to keep you from obeying the truth? (Galatians 5:7)

I was not chosen…and I was okay with that. Actually, a bit relieved.

The Back Story: Our school board experienced an unexpected resignation. As a result, the process to appoint a replacement began. The recent November election had been contentious. Battle lines were drawn, with the remaining four board members being viewed as a highly conservative group. The two newly elected board members ran with that as their platform, defeating the two incumbents.

A parent who I greatly respect came to me and asked if I would consider applying for the vacant board spot. The same thing happened to me in Michigan when a school board member there had moved out of the district. I was selected to replace her and then ran in the next election and served another four years.

This time, I checked with some people whose opinions and perspectives I highly respect to get their thoughts. I fully expected to receive “stop signs” and comments like “What in the world are you thinking!!!” But they went the other direction on me. So I applied…as did 23 others!

I had to get a resume together. I can’t remember the last time I did a resume! And then, all of the responses from all of the applicants were put online for anyone who suffered from insomnia to read. The list was narrowed down from 24 to 5 finalists, who will be interviewed by the board. I’m not one of them, and a relieving exhale filled our home.

Sometimes, obedience doesn’t always lead us to a yes conclusion. Sometimes, we’re asked to simply be willing to take that first step. I wouldn’t have even thought about applying if the parent hadn’t come to our house and talked to Carol and me about it. The surprise of that visit and conversation caused me to seek whether God was in the leading or not. Only a handful of people knew that I had applied and, quite honestly, those few folks, all had a tugging. They urged me to proceed and yet they were concerned for my welfare in a heated environment. They saw that I could make a difference, but were worried for the stress level that would come with the responsibilities of the position.

Following the leading of the Lord does not always make the headlines. In fact, it may make only the fine print, or in my case the end of the long list of 24 resumes that were placed in alphabetical order.


Sabbath Flu

December 12, 2023

There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God;  for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his.(Hebrews 4:9-10)

I receive a flu shot each year during the same doctor’s appointment of my annual physical exam. Unfortunately, this year my exam isn’t until the day after Christmas. That means two things: I’ll step on the scale like a side of beef with the excess Christmas fudge refusing to let go of my belly, and secondly, I have a welcome mat laid out for any flu bug that needs a home. I still have some hope that the first thing won’t happen, but the second became a reality this past weekend.

For three days, I had to rest, moving from misery to moaning to moments of feeling normal to recovery. My new resident had my full attention, and all I could do was…rest.

Rest. That word that gets associated with unpleasant things like arrest, cardiac arrest, restraint, restrict, restlessness, and “rest areas” along highways that get closed because of illegal activity occurring there. Rest is what we need and what we so often push to the back of the top shelf in the cupboard. We’ll get to it…sometime.

When I was in Israel many years ago, I remember the elevator of our Jerusalem hotel switched to Shabbat mode for the Jewish sabbath. That meant it would go one floor at a time, the doors would open and close, and it would proceed to the next floor. We were on the 9th floor so it took us a while to get down to breakfast, which consisted of only cold foods. Nothing had to be cooked. The emphasis was on following the Jewish law, restrictions (there’s that word again). In other words, forced rest. What it made me ponder was how easy it is in our culture to push rest out of the way. Sometimes we need to be forced into it.

For followers of Jesus, I’ve noticed that the specialness of the Sabbath has gradually been eaten away like an eroding shoreline. I write this as one of the guilty. In a culture of convenience, it is easy to run to the store to pick up hamburger buns for the afternoon cookout or head to the mall to scour the sales. Youth athletic contests dot our Sunday mornings. NFL games have even pushed up their kickoff times. Sunday is no longer a day of rest but of taking care of all those things we didn’t get to in the other six days of the week.

Golly gee! For us to rest at all, not just on Sunday, is a foreign concept for many of us. We need to take an online course on “resting.” Many of us have bought into the mindset that says if I’m not doing something, I’m being a slouch, a slackard, on the road to worthlessness.

And here’s the thing! Are we any better off for our hyper-living lifestyle? Has the condition of the world improved with the constant buzzing of human bee activity? Has “holy space” become an antiquated idea that has had its day?

Getting the flu caused me to realize my limitations, my humanness, my vulnerability, and the necessity of putting on the brakes.

The Smile in Death

December 3, 2023

“When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: “Death has been swallowed up in victory.”

 Where, O death, is your victory?
    Where, O death, is your sting?
1 Corinthians 15:54-55

My last surviving aunt or uncle passed away about a month ago. Aunt Jerry was about as sweet and hospitable as anyone, related or otherwise, that I’ve known. She had edged into her 90s and has now danced into Glory. I’ll be flying back to Kentucky for her memorial gathering in a few days. It will be one of those bittersweet times when I’ll reconnect with my cousins and recount old stories of our aunts and uncles and our Papaw and Mamaw Helton.

The death of the loved one will be the stimulus for smiles and laughter about what has been, the memories of family and front porch conversations.

Recently, I’ve experienced the passing of several people who have been a part of my life. A couple of them were unexpected, while others were the endings of longstanding health issues or longevity. The number of deaths in a few months’ time has caused me to be more reflective about the tracks behind me, the ripples in the waves of where I’ve come from, and the people that were involved in those pieces of evidence of one’s life.

Death seems to live all around us, but we try to live as if it isn’t there. Not that we should incorporate a meditative moment each day to ponder its presence, but perhaps we should think of it in different terms instead of treating it like the long-lost uncle that no one wants to talk about anymore.

The passing of my Aunt Jerry causes me to remember her warmth and kindness. She was an encourager, speaking words that made you feel blessed to be alive. Memories of my childhood days in Kentucky are punctuated with her pleasant voice and personality.

Death causes one to halt, to ponder, to cherish, and to grieve. It’s like one of those rest areas along the highway that one realizes he needs to pull into for a few minutes instead of thinking it isn’t needed. It’s a pause before continuing on the journey.

For the follower of Jesus, death is a stepping across. It’s a transition from what is to what will forever be. Scripture tells us of the hope of glory and gives us a glimpse of it. However, living in Glory is an experience that will not be fully appreciated until the Christ-follower arrives. It’s going to a paradise that we’ve only heard stories about, but haven’t seen with our own eyes.

Just as there are the tears of death, there are also smiles in death. It’s the unavoidable final act for each one of us. May each one of us not be so caught up in what we won’t be able to take with us that we lose sight of the One who will, with open arms, accept us.

The One who will smile upon us forever more.