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Chasing Slippery Pleasure

June 24, 2021

Carol and I, along with our friends Ron and Leanne McKinney, returned recently from two weeks on the island of Kauai. As you would expect an island vacationer to say, we had an awesome time snorkeling and snickering, lounging and laughing, and never had to use some kind of moisturizing cream the whole time we are sweating in the extreme humidity.

The four of us are “simple folk” in many ways, more comfortable with hiking a trail, body-surfing waves, and playing an entertaining game of euchre. Most nights included a nice conversational walk to the top of our development’s hill during which Leanne would find her “happy place” of being able to stroke one of the cats that roamed around. The 75 inch TV was powered on for one hour the whole time we were there. Otherwise, it went unnoticed. We drove the 2004 Dodge Ram truck that the owner of the condo loaned us for the stay, a vehicle that was as loud as a classroom of middle school students and void of any upgrades. We were fine with that since the owner was only charging us $100 a week to use it, compared to the $1,800 that rental companies wanted for a Toyota Corolla. We didn’t need luxury to park beside the beaches.

In other words, our joy was tied to the incredible beauty of the island, the enriching effect of conversation, and the discoveries we made about one another in the fertile soil of friendship.

The other side of those “simple pleasures” of life could be seen in the pursuit of the illusiveness of pleasures I viewed in some of the other vacationers we would cross paths with. There was chasing after it in certain excursions such as helicopter rides, zipline experiences, the renting of surfboards by non-surfers and wind surfboards by people who find difficulty in walking and chewing gum at the same time. There seemed to be that longing for the next thrill that ended up not providing the adrenaline rush. Pleasure, it seems, is as slippery as one of the island’s small geckos. Too often there is the chasing after it that uncovers the restlessness of the soul. Philip Yancey wrote in his book Rumors of Another World that “Abuses arise from regarding pleasure as an end in itself rather than a pointer to something more.” You see it in the unfulfilled expectations of a family’s visit to The Magic Kingdom, the hype and then disappointment as someone is about to attend an NBA basketball game, and, dare I say it, in the attendance at a church worship service that resembles a rock concert.

Pleasure that is the end in itself will never satisfy because it has been elevated to being on the throne as opposed to a bi-product of the One who is on the throne. I don’t need the “next greatest thing” because I seek to be connected to and dependent on “The One Who Is Greatest!”

The Pursuit of Happiness

March 21, 2018

WORDS FROM W.W.                                                         March 21, 2018

                           

National Geographic did a feature article in their 2017 November issue about happiness. What are the happiest places around the world, and what raises their level of happiness? Are there common threads between them?

Although evaluating happiness is similar to deciding what success means and how it looks, the article brought out three strands of happiness that when weaved together brought the prospects of leading a happy life to a much higher level.

The strands are pleasure, purpose, and pride. 

Pleasure is a term that gets boxed in with our personal assumptions as soon as we say the word. The hints of my Baptist upbringing immediately insert the word “guilty” in front of it. Pleasure, however, is defined as “the feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment.” We use it in a remark after serving another person in some way. When the person responds with a word of thanks the reply is often “It’s my pleasure!”

Pleasure, then, has as many categories as amazon.com. However, pleasure as a part of the pursuit of happiness is connected in some way to the community around us, the people we share life with, and a sense of harmony. Pleasure that is simply self-serving leads not to happiness but to a sense of detachment from the very vehicle that drives us towards happiness.

Purpose as a part of the happiness pursuit, in my opinion, is re-emerging. For a long, long time in the American culture we bought into the idea that more was better, that happiness was at the end of the rainbow that included a massive bank account, summer home on the lake, and Oil of Olay bubble baths (I’m not sure why that one popped up into my mind!).

Purpose means that I’m a part of something bigger than myself, that what I am about today matters not only for this moment, but for the days to come. It’s the teacher who understands and believes that what he/she imparts to the students today is important for who they will be in the tomorrows to come.

As a follower of Jesus I link purpose with the two greatest commandments that Jesus teaches in Matthew 22…”to love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind…and to love your neighbor as yourself.” Purpose in my life is seen in how I love God and love others. My life needs to be geared in those two ways and, as a result, it will fuel my pursuit of happiness.

Pride is the feeling of satisfaction in a person, group, community, and culture over achievements and shared values. Once again, it is far less about me and far more about the others on the journey with me. Parents say they are proud of their children not for what the parent has done, but rather what the child has achieved or attempted.

National pride rises as Olympic athletes go all out for the glory of the country. Community pride increases as it pulls together to address a major crisis or catastrophe.

The pursuit of happiness is like our local Thanksgiving Day 5K Turkey Trot. It’s 3,000 plus people of different sizes, ages, and abilities running (or walking) together from the start to the finish. Although some people finish quickly and many others finish slowly, the goal of everyone is to finish…and to enjoy the experience! Some people dress up like turkeys or even pilgrims and take on an amusing look in the pursuit. Others are more serious about the pace. Whatever one’s approach the post-race gathering in the parking lot around long tables of fruit, granola bars, juice, and bottles of water is a community celebration of the pursuit. Massage therapists give rubdowns, ice packs soothe aching calves, and friends jabber about the journey. There’s a sense of accomplishment…a feeling of happy satisfaction, purpose, and pride.

I don’t want to give the impression that a the pursuit of happiness can be summed up by a 5K road race, but it is, in my opinion, the perfect pictorial metaphor for how that pursuit can be understood. So, grab some hands around you and pursue it…together!