WORDS FROM W.W. February 9, 2012
In our Buddy Basketball program for kids we stress the need for kids to have a positive and fun recreational experience. A vast majority of kids long for that. There are a number of other things in their lives that aren’t positive and aren’t fun. It’s amazing to see the pressure that young kids of elementary age are under.
And honestly, for many kids the pressure comes from their parents. Mom and Dad want them to succeed…but it’s often confined to Mom and Dad’s definition of what success is. I wonder what Jesus would define childhood success as being. It seems that the examples of children that we hear about in the Gospels revolved around a small boy’s offering to give up his lunch for everyone (sharing with others); and Jesus’ desire to spend time with the kids that the disciples thought he didn’t have time for. When Jesus scolded his disciples for trying to keep children away from him he emphasized that the adults around him needed to chill out a little bit, to be more childlike instead of childishly adult!
So for Buddy Basketball we have something called “Ten Commandments for Buddy Basketball Parents.” Here they are, not in order of importance, but hopefully to bring some order to parental attitudes.
- Thou shalt applaud each player’s efforts, regardless of whose team he/she is a member of.
- Thou shalt not yell at or criticize the unpaid volunteer referees.
- Thou shalt affirm the referees whenever possible.
- Thou shalt not keep statistics on your child’s performance.
- Thou shalt congratulate your son/daughter after each game for their effort and hustle.
- Thou shalt be quiet and observe the pre-game prayer.
- Thou shalt not bring infants and toddlers into the Highland Park Church gym during the games for their own safety.
- Thou shalt smile at your son/daughter.
- Thou shalt let the coach know if your child won’t be at a game.
- Thou shalt have a good time and allow yourself to laugh.
This year I’m considering an 11th! I know it goes against the idea of “The Ten”, but it’s become one that we ap”parent”ly didn’t think about:
- Thou shalt let the coach be the coach, and you be the cheering, clapping, positive, and mostly quiet parent!
I believe Jesus would give an “amen!”